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Like for example my father's health. Everyone is all freaked and worried and stressed. Hell so am I but I just...don't show it. It will be the same when he passes. Everyone will loose their shit and I'll clean up right after them. Months will pass and then I will randomly think of it then everything crashes and burns...but just for me and no one ever finds out about it because it's when I am alone.

This isn't unhealthy or inappropriate, in and of itself. You shouldn't judge your own emotional responses based on what other people do.

It's actually a positive thing that you're able to continue functioning despite knowing that there are bad things you have to deal with. It's appropriate to worry and stress and grieve when the time is right, and those periods where you do break down are meaningful and important too, but being able to set those feelings aside when they don't serve any purpose in the present moment is healthy. Don't force yourself to dwell on those unpleasant things based on some idea that you're supposed to be upset about it.

When my grandfather was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, my reaction was pretty level. I honestly didn't feel much when he passed away even though I loved him very much. At the time, I felt bad that I wasn't torn up over losing someone close to me. When I finally did shed tears, it wasn't over his passing; it was over the pain that I saw my mother and grandmother dealing with. And that's when I understood that it really doesn't say anything bad about yourself to feel that way -- I knew it was inevitable, I knew there was no positive gain from letting it hurt me, and the people in my life who were hurt by it benefited from having me able to be level and reliable and compassionate.

And it's okay to let it out when you're alone. Everyone draws strength from different things. Some people draw strength from being with others. Some people draw strength from being away from outside attention. The important thing is that you understand yourself and understand your emotions so that when you do need to take that time to crash you understand that you're helping keep yourself healthy.