[Fulkth]

I would opt for the "here if you need me" thing too. But it's hard since you live out of state.

I haven't lost any of my parents yet so I can't relate to that aspect.
But I have gone through some trauma in my life.

It could be possible that it won't really hit home until she is actually gone.

A co-worker of mine lost his dad due to cancer. He acted fine. He was probably relieved after his dad was sick for so long. But another co-worker said that he may not feel the impact now, but years down the line he would grow to miss his dad.