[Him]

Yes old fashioned was the word I was looking for. And some guys are stay at home dads too. You don't HAVE to be a house wife. You can do both as Chole says. Or you don't have to marry at all. The choice is yours, she may be your mother but she doesn't have any say as to what choices you make. Although she will often voice them you don't have to do what she says as an adult.

As for charity that's the same problem with some of these places, it takes a long while for responses and it makes me sad. However when you have active chatter like we do here the other places don't really matter.