[Lawtan]

What's this lovely (sarcasm) welfare agent's name? Perhaps she has violated a law here, and can be reported to higher authorities (and thus get off your back), or perhaps she has no right to claim the powers she is claiming to have.

As to any ideas to make things better - perhaps alternate some of the schedule with your mom (example; so that you can at least say that you are trying to clean up the hairballs as per their unreasonable requests)? They could be right about something causing the cat some stomach trouble, but that should require the assessment of a professional in animal health/care.

Perhaps, under the circumstances, your mother could work with (or not interfere with) you to undo the clutter in her room...considering the alternative is the nursing home, according to the Adult Services Worker. (Again, I am somewhat doubtful she can do so without a second or third opinion from professionals)

I am curious about how this is winding up on your head - I don't think you're legally your mother's caretaker.

I am sorry :(