[Ginger]

I completely understand feeling indifferent about family. I know what you're going through with your dad. Though I grew up in a poor family, mine has never once called me in my life. It's always been me who has made the effort to keep in contact with him. He expects me to visit him, and never tells me when he'll be in town or show any interest about my life whatsoever.

I understand how you would feel hurt about his calling to say he's leaving state, and that he didn't mention anything about staying in touch. Please understand though, the people who make some kind of effort to stay in your life are the ones worth keeping. Meaning if he calls you, great, but if not then that's okay, too.

He's your father, I know, but you can't beat yourself up over his mistake of minimal contact with you. In the end though it's important to not exclude him from your life, but to keep your doors open and let him in, whenever he decides he wants contact with you.

In any case it's really great to see your post. It's been a long time and you have friends here who care.