thankyou, i myself use my avi as my standard since my actual looks at a glance do not represent my gender or my inner physiognomy both of which are somewhat fluid XD
i mean, umaeril that we make our avis to represent our own thoughts feelings desires and wants whereas our actual bodies are simply a combination of genetics and culture that we use the best we can to reflect ourselves. an avatar flushes most of the parts of us that are the easiest to stereotype or judge and allow us to instead amplify the parts of ourselves we most feel are important such as physical attributes or personality quirks with the benefit of people looking at the avatar as just that, an avatar of our preferences
here is my example;
this is a picture of a female;
http://a.abcnews.com/images/US/ht_ka..._130522_wg.jpg
just looking at her picture we already tack on so many assumptions such as her race, her nationality, whether she uses dye or is natural, if she is popular, if she lives alone, how much money she makes, what her gender is, how old she is, whether she is likely a virgin, is she maybe someone who has a lot of friends, if she has a big family
this is the picture of an avatar;
http://a2.cdn.gaiaonline.com/dress-u...041207_6.00_11
your assumptions of this at a glance are a lot more limited such as boy/girl, boy/girl irl, adult/child rich or just an older member, and nice or not nice
granted not all are thought of by everyone and each have more but what we assume and how deeply we think about it is so very different because our brains and our culture dictates what we think we ought to know from a glance and adjusts our biases and expectations accordingly
it is also an issue that you will remember that person by their picture and not by their avis which over time leaves you with neither their face or their avis because of memory-related bias and atrophy XD i will always think of my grandmother the way i saw her two years ago until she looks so very different that my brain will make a new face for her because i only see her once a year or so