[Lucid:]

It sounds to me like your husband is an impulsive spender and you feel as though if he is going to spend so much money on himself, you deserve the same amount of spending money for yourself. Is that about right?

Choco's idea is a good one, having separate accounts will help you set up budgets and limits for both you and your husband. If for some reason you can't get your own separate accounts, talk to your husband about revoking his spending privileges, taking away all his cards so he can't buy frivolous things. In turn this will help you feel like you're not getting a fair share of the money you are earning.

If the problem is not tied to the bank account but the compulsive shopping itself, there are a lot of resources online for shopping addiction help.

In the end, I feel like it's very important for both spouses to be in charge of shared money. Spend time going over your budgets with your husband and agree together on what kind of money you can spend on yourselves, how much goes to necessities and bills, and how much goes to savings. Having these rules set up together makes it easier to keep each other in line and will hopefully reduce fights about money. If one person doesn't know where the money is going at any point in time, it's a problem.