[Helsinki Harlot]

Enkeli; I love you so much for that stance. 'Cause I used to be on a forum. And I'm a cis female, and I'm happy being that. I am. I'm proud of my gender and my sex, it just happens to match up, ya know? And people on the forum got pissed about that. It was LGBT+ forum, and there was a picture thread. And I rem. I would every so often pots pics and this woman would ... make me feel lesser ( she was mtf) and just... like I didn't belong. And I'm bi, and lordy have I been ostracized by the gay online community because I prefer men and I'm cis. I know not all communities are like this, but I've had to jump through so many hoops and have been yelled at for so many words that I didn't know were "wrong" and painted a devil. x.x So I'm paranoidly careful about terminology.

That's super awesome special sauce bad ass that you could do that AND be well received. :)

It sucks that you had to do it by yourself. It always helps to have someone there. I knew a, and lord I don't even know if I can use certain words 'cause on the forum I was on they grilled it into my head that you never get to call say that they're transitiong, you don't get to say as someone who's not that this is what's happening and I still don't know how to talk about my own experiences respectfully without pissing just about everybody off. I'm not going to mention the one I was wanting to because I still don't know what's okay; but. Currently, she, (the one I was mainly talking about who has given me permission) still identifies as a female because she's not ready to, and scared to make the extra. One of the reasons is the obession about public image. And again, I asked for permission and she's okay with it, but she's got big o'l bitties and the she wants to loose weight to the point where she can wear a binder and be perceived as male. She gave me permission to mention it, but she's [and she still prefers to use that pronoun] only starting out realizing that it's okay to branch out and feel like you need to develop into a different shape of a body. Because I get it, yeah I'm good where I'm at, but I get it. (I did try and ask for advice from someone and they got so pissed, and angry at me for using 'she' so I... I'm scared sometimes to get into a talk about it because I don't know all the right words. [/ going to continue but I just burned my hand on the oven]