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I don't really see how physical gender has anything to do with what you wish to be called. If what you identify with fits your physical build, it's all the same as if you identify with a gender that isn't your physical sex. Pronouns, in my opinion, have no real anchor in your physical build. There's really no reason that they should be. If you want to be called something, then people should call you what you wish to be called. Someone can ask "are you a boy or a girl" and it doesn't matter whether you have the physical parts; if you want to be treated socially as a man or a woman or neither or anything else, then your physical parts should have no weight in the matter at all.
In my opinion, physical gender should be treated like race should be; irrelevant. Humans are humans. Pronouns should be determined by the individual, not by what they use to reproduce, just like nobody should treat one person differently than another person with a different color of skin or nationality. This is how I view it.
Gender stereotypes is another big issue for me. But that's a different subject, although closely linked.

In any case, I cannot see how anyone should be offended or upset or have any problem with people who do not want to give out their physical gender. Whatever they tell you should be good enough. Honestly I cannot find a reason, outside of medical and intimate reasons, why anyone at all would need to know what parts you have on your own body, and to me, curiosity just doesn't cut it. You can be curious if a darker skinned guy is either "african american" or "latino" but you don't go up and ask him. In a perfect world, that would be eliminated, along with gender stereotypes and people would just be people.

( Not attacking anyone's opinion here, btw. I'm just stating mine lol. Sometimes I get misunderstood. OTL )


Edit: Figured I should also point out, although I say all these things I do see and agree with all the things Coda pointed out. The stuff I wrote is my opinion and what I think should be, but I am very much aware that that isn't how it is now.
"Gender is a complicated thing and there are few generalizations that can be safely made without alienating or omitting some people. The most important thing is to respect those who you meet." Of all the things that should be solid as stone, this should be it. No matter what you tell a person you are, they should respect you as a human, and no matter what our opinions are, there are those who feel very differently about it. Nobody can be right or wrong about this, since this is all the views of different people.