[Umaeril]

Meizicht wrote:
"I'm not going to answer questions specifically; I just wanted to give a certain opinion here about one thing in particular.
In my opinion, pronouns to use have nothing to do with what parts you have in real life. The only way what gender you are irl has any importance is if you plan to have sex with them or you're a doctor and you need to know for medical reasons."

Hi there, sorry I really have to disagree with this. I think I know what you are getting at from what you say afterwards, but just let me interject that RL gender is part and parcel of what we are not only internally and externally but socially and it has complete relevance and importance to the individual no matter what, no matter if you embrace the concept or you reject it. Avatar gender is a different matter.

Meizicht goes on to say:
"It always really pisses me off when I see someone get unreasonably mad at a person who projects his/her/theirself as one gender, but are physically the other. It's nobody's business, really. It's not like they have to inform everyone if they have specific parts; in my opinion, it's really intrusive when people ask one another what they are irl. Really... why would they need to know? What would they use that information for? If you're a he, you'll tell people. If you're a she, you'll tell people. If you're neither or both or whatever, you'll tell people. Regardless of what you are physically. Aside from those you're romantically involved with, and your doctor, it's nobody's business whatsoever."

I think you are right that on some level it is intrusive to ask, however, we are a curious species. We are a social species and we are a young species. We have a lot of male/female baggage genetically, historically, socially. It's only natural to be curious about those with whom we interact. :]