[Twigg]

Oh, honey. :(
I'm so sorry.

And I can't say I know what you're going through, but my mother had something like 10 miscarriages before she had me, and she told me that she was feeling a lot like you are the first time.
Nobody would ever, ever blame you for being upset, even if you don't channel your feelings properly. So in my opinion, the first step would be to not let what other people think about your feelings bother you.

Secondly, have you considered therapy? That can help a lot as well. If you don't like actually speaking with a therapist, there are many online outlets you can find.

If you're anything like me you could also try removing yourself from the situation. Go get some fresh air or something to relax yourself and gather your thoughts, then go back and explain things calmly?