Meizicht
Cage
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Keeping this up for record ( Updating this when things happen. )
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It is amazing how an argument over a lightbulb has kicked off the road to giving my boyfriend his freedom. After these days of insanity and worry, things are progressing REALLY well. Sunday, he snuck online and told me he was going to find the public defender/attorney and tell them everything the next day ( Monday ). Today ( Thursday morning ) he signed on and told me:
"Well, I went out to social security and I got my check switched over to me as the payee rep
And I actually got a court case against my mom soon
Still talking to the Public Defender about it. xD But essentially, I can stay in the house since my money went into staying, too
Meh, she can't harrass me anymore. We've already had cops talk to her.
They discussed my rights as an adult and if she harrasses me, I can just call my attorney
And he'll have a peace order
And no, but I'm going to be more active as far as schooling goes"
Told him he needs to get away from her asap, and if anyone wants that the most, it's him. lol
No doubt as soon as he can, he'll be in his own place.
I'm so happy. I'm shaking, I'm so happy.
AGH I CAN'T GET OVER HOW HAPPY THIS MAKES ME. My mom even shouted "yayyyyyyy" when I told her, lol. And this is like 3am.
As fast as things are getting better, everything looks so good.
FINALLY!
What's been happening the past week:
The original issue is no longer a problem, but the situation is still ongoing. I need to keep this here just in case I really get pulled into it, and they need some kind of record of what happened. I'm saving everything, writing it down as it goes, and I want to keep it until I know it's all been solved.
Preferably someone who had experience with this kind of thing or knows someone who did.
My boyfriend's mother is abusive, a narcissist and uses religion as her cover for it. She demeans him every chance she gets and recently became physical about it. I wont go into deep detail about it because that may violate his privacy, and I don't want to put more stress on him than he's already got.
He left last night, and I'm so proud of him for that. If he sticks with getting on his own two feet, things will look so good for him, he'll get more of his confidence back and he'll be genuinely happy. He's told me this, decided this himself, and I'm doing my best just to wait for him to tell me he's okay.
But because of him leaving, his mother continues to call me, all night ( instead of being an honest caring mother and going out to find him herself ). Telling me it's my fault. That he "owes" her his life. Continuing to demean him even to me, which I will not stand for. So I told her exactly how I felt. I told her she was abusive. She could call the police on me, because I had nothing to hide. I could tell the police exactly what she's done to him. And I hung up.
This would make the 18th time she's called me, at 4:34 in the morning. After messaging "FUCK YOU!" through his messenger.
I'm in another state entirely, but this is ridiculous. She wont leave me alone. She threatens me, harasses me, and calls me at ridiculous times of the night. If this keeps going, there wont be any peace.
What I need to know is if the police can do anything about this. If she continues to harass me, if I have a name she goes by, would that be enough? I keep conversation history, and I rarely clean my phone ( because I hardly use it ), and I would turn it off but I'm worried about him and I'm waiting for him to contact me to tell me he's okay. But he really needs to get away from her. Her abuse needs to stop.
If the police can do something about this, I will not hesitate to call them.
( The times which she calls me are around or less than 10 minutes apart. )
Edit: Number of times she's called is up to 20 so far. Slowed down but it's still going. I think she's also getting onto his accounts to stalk me online.
New info:
Well, new things happened.
This could be one of two things.
I'm really cautious because for one, his mother has harassed me a lot before. I want nothing to do with her, because she is abusive and wants to manipulate everyone, including me. And it wont work.
But today, I got a message from his account on facebook, which was tip number one; He knows I hardly use facebook. If he were to contact me online, it would've been through YIM. But at the same time, I have no idea if it's like the fastest way he could say anything to me or something like that. Second tip was his way of typing was way off. It didn't seem like him, but again, idk if he was being bothered or rushed. Third tip; he seemed to be giving up too easy. I asked for something only me and him know about, but he picked something that's on facebook to give to me, so that wasn't solid enough that it was him. So I still don't know.
But I sent, in hopes that no matter who it was - if it was him, he'd see that someone did care about him and what I thought of him, and if it was her, she'd see what I thought of him too - about how he's a great person, makes good music and had a passion for it, as well as writing, and didn't deserve being abused. That I was hoping no matter what happened that he'd be alright and no matter how long it took that he could definitely make it on his own two feet. I said I wasn't shallow enough to give up just because someone else told me to.
If it turns out that he's not told me something, or lied about anything ( I don't think he has, but I've got to consider all possibilities here ) it's going to wreck me far worse than anything else. This is looking so similar to what happened a couple years ago. And that had already messed me up enough.
But this isn't about me. Right now, focus should be on him. Just have to keep waiting to see how things turn out for him and if he's alright. Just never know what I can believe and if that was really him or not.
And I wanted to put this public because if things did go more insane than they already are, I've got it down as it went, and people have seen it. I'm saving everything, remembering everything and putting it down as I've heard and experienced it, so if anything happens, there wont be confusion or a mess. I think that's a good idea, probably.
I hate that I can't help him, but I'm thousands of miles away. That frustrates me the most. I wish there were more honest people so there wouldn't be so much suspicion about whatever I've said. She's convinced that it's all my fault, and apparently, according to whoever was talking to me, he is "not allowed" to speak to me anymore.
Because a virgin who has never touched drugs, alcohol or cigarettes, nor have they been arrested or in trouble for anything in their life, can be the worst influence on a person.
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Sucks that the world is made up of idiot hooligans that make honest people look suspicious. It's all so unnecessary.
New info:
1/1/2013:
Kai's mom left this in his copy-paste:
Leaving this here just in case.
I am pretty sure that committing SSI fraud and peddling on the streets is extortion enough. And I said so. And she didn't like it. So now she's making threats.
This is exactly why I made this thread in case police have to be involved even more.
Last edited by Meizicht; 01-01-2013 at 07:49 PM.
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Posted 10-18-2012, 04:37 AM
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