[Belial]

But you have made the first step in admitting it, most people who are abusive would never do that.

But if it was between someone who didn't care that they hurt people and someone who did care and was trying to change that, I would see the last one in a more favorable view. The first step is always the hardest and you've already done that.

Self improvement is never easy, not in the least, but getting starting is the biggest hurdle. You know you aren't done but you have to give yourself a tiny bit of credit. It could be hugely motivational in order to continue trying.

Because a lot of people would just give up, and you haven't. That is something I would say you should be proud of.

My ex would never admit that she hurt me. She never saw herself as an abuser.