[Vinyl]

Hey there. :) I'm not sure if you're still looking for advice or not, but I thought that I would throw my two cents in anyway.

First of all, I'm really sorry that you and your boyfriend split up. Breaking up with someone (especially if you're not the one to do it) is never nice. Long distance relationships are incredibly tough and they're definitely not for everyone (I know that I wouldn't be able to be in a LDR) so I would think really carefully about whether you would be able to cope with it before getting involved again. It just saves all the heartache for both parties in the long run.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not having sex right away and you should definitely not do anything that you're not completely comfortable with. If you're not ready for sex, don't have any. If he can't understand this and respect your wishes, he really isn't worth your time. As important a factor as some people consider sex to be, it should definitely not be a defining factor in a relationship.

If you think that he may cheat on you because you're not willing to have sex, I really don't think you should go back out with him. This is purely personal opinion though. Trust is an important factor in a relationship and if you don't trust someone fully, you probably shouldn't be with them. I know that trust is difficult for a lot of people (myself included) but you definitely need to think hard about that. Perhaps look to where this though stems from, if he has a history of cheating, etc.

Moving onto the oral sex factor, I'm sure he would be delighted that you were willing to try that considering that he knows you struggle with it. It does sound like you have quite a strong gag reflex. I would suggest taking baby steps with this, licking and things first, then perhaps just putting the tip in and moving on from there. It will take time and of course, unless you're comfortable with it you don't need to continue. However, handy tip, if you want to overcome your gag reflex ball your left hand into a fist and squeeze your thumb. It will make things a little easier. :) There are actually quite a few articles on oral sex that I've found on a women's advice blog on Tumblr, I'd be happy to share them with you if you were interested. ^^

Finally, I'm sorry to hear that you and his friends don't get on too well. However I don't really think that your significant other's friends and you have to get on that great. As long as you can act civil to each other, there's no real problem. I personally wouldn't write a letter, but if you feel that it might help (as you know the personalities of his friends better than I do and can probably gauge how they would react) then go for it. :)

I'm sorry if anything came across as rude, but I really hope I was some help. :)