[Yokuutsu]

I know you're different from me, but I'd have a problem with him going to a club period. With his brother, by himself, or anything like that. Especially since ya'll are married.

And about him needing cheering up maybe, you don't have to go to a club to do that. Him and his brother could just hang out somewhere that is not a club where there is alcohol and skanks. Because I've learned to not trust men on their own. They tend to do stupid/bad things.

Personally, talk to him again, if he ignores you....next time he goes out with his brother, if you catch him before he leaves, it's ultimatum time, but make it clear that it isn't bothering you that he's hanging out with his brother. And all that.

BTW an anniversary shouldn't be the only time for dates at home or out. It doesn't have to be a special occasion (though I do understand the money issues and all). Just saying.

And if the husband does need cheering up, why couldn't he tell you about the problem instead of leaving you in the dark about it?

Maybe I put too much importance on marriage, but I believe that means he should be able to tell you (and you him) what's bothering him.