[Serra Britt]

My advice might echo what everyone else is saying.

You are in no way terrible for not wanting sex or waiting for sex. True there are a lot of benefits to sex in a relationship, but I firmly believe it is still just one part of the relationship, and should not be a gauge of how healthy a relationship is. I think it's important for a couple to talk about it, especially if one is ready and the other is not. If you both enjoy each other's company, waiting for sex shouldn't be an issue partly because there are other things that can be done together that are probably just as nice. In my opinion anyways XD

As for the blow jobs, this is a matter of personal preference I think. I've never been with a guy so I can't comment on that specific experience, but talking about it is important. I for one think lubed up fingers are better than a tongue but...everyone is different. Maybe there's another way you can enjoy it or maybe there isn't. Anyways I don't know much about it so I'll just stop here :3