[Fey]

I believe that everyone has the right to their opinion, and their beliefs. You have expressed yourself very well and in a way that shows how you've approached it; however, I think that part of your approach is a bit narrow. From a comment made I will assume you're younger than 21, so you have lived in the 'current' mindset for your whole adult life.

The major thing to remember is that many, not all, of the feminists you seem to have issues with are older than you by one, if not two generations. These are women that were DIRECTLY impacted by a society that did NOT view them as equals. Does this in any way make their extremist attitudes better? No, but it's always best to know where your opponents are coming from.

I do agree that most of the hard core feminists aren't shooting for equality, they're shooting for revenge. Revenge for any slight that was presented in the past. But as I don't believe that revenge is something worth worrying over I tend to blow most of them off. As a woman I know that how I'm treated is dependent on how I treat others; my worth is not measured by my gender but by my actions and contributions.

I will touch on something you said that sorta bugs me a bit more than the rest. You claim that men are just as shaped by the media as women, and I will have to argue that. Yes, to a certain extent men are shown that if they're 'cut' 'ripped' 'slender' it's better, but there's often a hundred successful, popular, famous men that aren't these things to balance it out. Women, on the other hand, in nearly every form of media exposure MUST be skinny and pretty to be sucessful.

Men have Bill Gates, Jerry Seinfeld, Woody Allen, Ozzy Osborne, and Donald Trump. Yes, they also have Chris Helmsworth, Will Smith, and Charlie Sheen; but at least there's more than the 'pretty boy' options for role models. Women on the other hand have Scarlette Johansen, Paris Hilton, Angelina Jolie, and Charlize Theron; we don't get a 'jane everywoman' option. You are either beautiful or you work hard to get there. The only woman I can even think for a while was 'normal' was Oprah, and even she spent years to get down to a media ideal of 'pretty'. Oh, I lie, I just recalled Adele; she is the first in a long time to show that beauty isn't a size two. But even then, if you look for images of her you are often just presented with her face, it's as though the media has a fear of presenting a 'real' sized human to women, as if they think they can deny their existence.

Every magazine we read tells us how to loose weight, loose inches, be prettier or skinnier. Most male magazines will have one article about working out(unless something like Mens Health and then that's just the wrong publication to compare against), not a million different things to show how being 'you' isn't good enough.

Does this mean we're more put upon, woe is me, Damsel's in Distress? Hell no. But it does give us a larger hurdle to overcome, often put there by other women as well as our selves. I'm not saying it makes us more entitled, but I am saying that it exists and is a very real, very serious issue.

And I guess what it boils down to is what I've already said. Everyone, male, female, white, hispanic, black, etc, need to not EXPECT equality. We are all human, but we are NOT equal. We are deserving of what we get based on if/how we earn it. I work hard for any respect, money, and benefits I get. I will not give those same benefits to someone who has not worked as hard as me, but I will also not limit someone to those same results if they go above and beyond. That, that is true equality.