[Night Fury]

it might help learning more about small talk and where it's okay to talk about more personal matters

I've actually recently have had to recently learn more about this
a friend of mine pointed out that is why I have a hard time with some friends and not being very social

giving out too much personal information when you first meet someone isn't always a good thing
maybe find some common interest first, joke a little, or something
if the conversation leads to more personal matters, you may want to lightly talk about something or brush over the top of the issue more something again in small talk, don't have to say all the details or issues

It may feel like to you that you aren't giving enough information but it may help and keep people from being embarrassed

watch and observe try to pay more attention to what you say
rather than blurt out the first thing that comes to your mind
it also comes with practice try, if you don't succeed the first time try again later
reading and even watching some shows can also help show small talk
which you can observe...

(when I was told to read more books and to watch some shows for example star trek was one of them, though I do have my limits of watching the show, however, it does help)
it takes time, I've been working on this for months and just recently I've seen results from learning more about small talk and improving social skills and to not over talk about things that would make me feel embarrassed and/or anyone else for that matter

it takes patience, time, practice, reading, studying and understanding to help you know what you should limit yourself to saying
you can do it :)