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I'm always here and that he has nothing to say to me because our convos are summed up in 5 minutes.. then telling me its ok to talk to him....

This isn't that unusual, truthfully. This is the hard part in any marriage, depression or not -- when you've talked about everything there is to be talked about, and you already know about everything that goes on in each other's lives, the conversation feels like it dries up. It's difficult, I know. I've dealt with that in my own marriage; indeed, I'm still dealing with it (though as I mentioned, from the other side of the issue from you), but it's not as bad as it was before. It's not any easier for the other partner.