[Quiet Man Cometh]

I have to agree with Coda on some points here. I'm not a guy of course, but I do have depression and it's not something that can easily be fixed by just talking about it. In fact, that's one of the things that people who are depressed can have a lot of problems with.

I've been depressed for some years, sought professional help over a year ago, and since have been through one assessment group and two more discussion groups and I'm barely at the point where I can talk to my closest relatives about what's causing trouble.

I'd say focus less on the big picture and more on the day to day stuff I think, and the bigger stuff will work it's way through.

One thing I think it would help to be wary of is how you say or ask things. Sentences like "don't you think etc" can be taken as criticism because it gives the impression that the person *should* be thinking that way and if they aren't then they are doing something wrong. If a person feels that they can't do anything right, then they may stop trying.