[Ishu]

Yaaay perspective time!


1. At least your family is financially stable. Growing up, I never got anything for my birthday and, if I did, it wasn't for me. It was for her. (except for my last 2 presents, one that I sold and the other that she stole from me)
2. Consider your parents' personalities. Did they experience hardship growing up? Maybe they don't really believe in holidays. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying they are right. I just want you to think about your parents and their personal opinions. If they celebrate easter and christmas, but not your birthday, that should be a problem.
3. You are not alone in the religious sexism. My best friend is in your position. Any time she has had a job she paid for EVERYTHING, this means her college classes, gas, video games, clothes, ect. She is the middle child. Both of her older siblings have free rides to college (eve though one of them is blowing it) but she has to pay for her own schooling. Her two younger siblings are the #1 priority because they are pro swimmers and their parents expect them to get through college with a sports scholarship. There are other things that have happened in her life that her parents wouldn't listen to her about or blamed her about. She is constantly at war with her mother. It's actually funny some of the time, but still. Her family is definitely more religious than yours (I haven't met anyone whose family beat her family at it) and they believe, like your parents, that children are to take part in house work. I totally understand if you are the ONLY person doing ANYTHING. I had to clean a hoarders house DAILY and, eventually, just stopped. So we lived in mountains of just plain junk for years- unless a social worker came over then my fingers would practically bleed from how much work I had to do in one day. I was so Cinderella it isn't even fucking funny.
4. Consider broadening the search area for a job. This will either force your parents to drive you to work OR you will walk further. This can give you free time to yourself to relax and it can be used as a reason against your parents as to why you should not be able to clean everything alone or why you need more sleep. I have over 9000 (lol) health problems. I should NOT be working until I get my surgeries and my medication in order. However, because of our financial state, I did have a job for about 5 months. I didn't do SHIT around the house. It did cause a problem but, seriously, I was paying the fucking bills. I shouldn't have had to take care of the house too.


Those are just my thoughts. I hope it helps you.