[Ishu]

I divorced my first husband because of this. There were MANY other issues going on at the time but when I found out he was unwilling to pay for a surgery that I NEED because he said it would "put him in debt for 10 years" ($6000 surgery, btw; he made up to $4000 a month...) and that he didn't want to pay for it, it was an emotional blow.

Over time I began to realize that more and more of our money was going missing and he started stressing about cash. I, eventually, found out he was cheating on me and sending money somewhere else. Naturally, I was furious. I never called him out on it and I really wish I did- but because he's part capricorn he would have just lied his way in circles and I didn't have the emotional capacity or patience to go through that. So, inevitably, we got a divorce. We are no longer on speaking terms as he is a total dickweed.

Anywho, you could start asking for receipts so you can balance your checkbook and figure out how to handle the money better. If more money is missing and there are no receipts- one of two things is going on:

1. He's cheating on you or simply spending the money on something he shouldn't.
2. There could be a ring involved.

honestly, he's probably throwing the money away on something, or someone, else, considering the tone I'm getting from his text. I think you need to seriously reevaluate the relationship and start planning on where you're going to live.