[Xun]

I can see how that would break the relationship. However, I don't want to come sounding like an @ss about this but... the fact that you're arguing with your mother regarding this situation... isn't that affecting the relationship also?

Sometimes, things need to be broken in order for everything else to move on-- in this case, your relationship with your mother. If you guys ever decide to get hitched, you need to realize once your married... the strongest relationship you should have is with your husband. After that, your family.

I don't know how old you need to be in order to pass as an adult wherever you live, but technically you're old enough to make decisions on your own and your mother should respect you for what you decide on as much as you respect her and her own decisions.