[MuseSick]

The sort of hair style is in, although in most cases (this is in no way my opinion) I think people see piercings as somewhat juvenile? So generalizing based on the fact you're married, people may think you need to grow out of them~ and "grow up"

And yes- your Husband probably should stand up for you, if he loves you, that should bother him that one of his friends is talking about you like that.
But also in the same perspective, although this doesn't make it right that his friend said anything about it, if they've known one another since 7th grade, there's a good chance that he probably doesn't want to fight with this friend. I'd assume they're very close and he might not want to step on anybody's toes.
He may be upset that you don't understand that, or that you're making a big deal out of what he may see as "nothing". Especially if your husband is the type of person who say's you shouldn't care what people think. If he's that type of person he may be aggravated that you care so much about it.
It's also a possibility that he too does not like your piercings or hair cut~

But your haircut is very in style (from what I know o.o; I'm not stylish or trendy xD). But if that's how his friend is going to act, you should just be happy they're not coming at all. That person seems quiet conceited.

Also, if it bothers you that much, confront the friend! You don't always need him to stand up for you. But that runs the risk of stepping on his toes and upsetting him if things blow out of proportion. Like they usually seem to.

Your hair looks fine by the way~ And also, some people who aren't usually around people with facial piercings find it a bit much to look at, that could be why. Whether the hair makes you look "emo" or not~ Sometimes it's hard to take in new things~

Best of luck~