[Serra Britt]

I myself, with a (technically) male body, sort of let gender rules cover me since I look and act female. I usually think of myself as female too, but for the most part I'm neither. I personally don't refer to anyone as "sir" or "ma'am" ever, and tend to shy away from gender terms for people until I know them for a while.

As for the conversation at hand...sometimes I do use they or just the person's name, or reword the sentence so I don't need to use a gender term. Bad for grammar? Maybe, but considering how I feel when people call me "he" I don't want others to feel the same because of something I say or write.