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I don't want kids period. I had that idea since I was 11
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) That's a great idea. I wished I had that one. >.< ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
I'm 21 and I've never even kissed a guy XD. It's not that I'm against it, at this point I can't imagine having kids, but I just haven't had a boyfriend or anything xP.
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) There is nothing wrong with that Femme. You are waiting til you find someone right. I admire people like that. I wish I waited for alot of things til I met my husband but then I think that if I waited then I might not of met him and I wouldn't have the greatest guy in the world hehe. I'm an annoying optimist >.>; So much so that it actually bothers me at times lol. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
I'm the same way. i think about things that I might regret, but then I think, I wouldn't have the best friend that I have, and I wouldn't have the happiness that I have with the things that I enjoy...
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) Same with me. My husband was a virgin when I met him. He has values a girl would have. He highly values sex and thinks it stands for something very special, same with me. He also thinks it should only be enjoyed between people who are in love with each other. He was 18 and had these values that he taught himself. No one in his family thought like that, only him. And that is one thing that I really love about him. He's the perfect guy for any woman hehe, or man if he was that way lol. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
For me I couldn't really handle the thought of raising another being, I would end up being like my mom, never there (I would be a horrible mom). I can't find the good ones here in Colorado, the good ones want something that I can't have; beauty. :(
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) I'm sure your beautiful Echo. And you will find that right one, one day. I hoped to be a good mom but I ended up being a bad one. I tried my hardest but it was just too hard to raise someone that completely depended on you 100%. But I'm glad my son turned out pretty decent. I at least did one right, and that's what I look at. One is better than none. Not everyone is made for being a parent and I think it's good that people don't have children when they think they would be a bad parent. There are so many people out there that have kids even though they can't handle them and are bad parents but they just keep on doing that and it's bad. I wished there were more people out there like you who absoultely don't want kids and are making sure they don't. But if you do have a child. I'm sure you will do your best and will do fine. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
Well they can't be that good if they're only interested in beauty queens... That's the way I think about it.
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) Great way to think of that. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
Yeah, so... I mean, I'm not particularly attractive - moderately so I suppose - but I wish I knew a way to be sure, if a guy likes me... I mean there are a number of things. Haha. But I've never had a guy with a serious interest, I mean there have been guys who liked me but none that seemed particularly appealing, to me. Personality wise I mean.
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) Don't worry Femme, you will find one someday. I found my perfect guy and I know you will. There is someone perfect for everyone. It just takes sometime finding them at times. Wished it didn't though. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
Yeah, that search can lead to a lot of distress for many people, but at the same time, what fun would it be if you were given all the answers at the beginning?
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my searches lead to other people's misery, For me I think there aren't enough good guys (or girls) in the world
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) I luckily wasn't looking for someone when I found my perfect mate. I feel bad for people who have to though. Sadly there aren't Echo. And there should be more good people out there. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
over 6 BILLION OF THEM
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Think about the fact that the culture for a good portion of that population has people marrying people for political and sociological ends, rather than because they've found someone particularly special...
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or for economic gains, don't forget that
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Well that was mainly what I meant by sociological, but yes. The point is many people are in situations where they are not looking.
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) People should only marry if they are truly in love. I hate how people marry for stupid reasons like the ones you two mentioned. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
My mom married my dad thinking that they are in love but then after a year in love they hated each other
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I don't know; it's really hard to know what will last, and in many cases the ones which start for political or whatever reasons, last without difficulties... Of course there are many challenges with that as well. But people who are "in love", marry quickly without testing themselves in any way. Then the first fight splits em up. I don't know. I don't know if I want to get married. Not that it matters anyway right now, since I have not even a single prospect for a date let alone marriage.
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My mom Marries men that have been with her for about a year, it's a short amount of time to jump into that sort of commitment
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) Marriage is tricky to figure out. Some people can last if they marry soon and some can last if they take their time to marry. It all depends on the people. I'm one of the lucky that has a marriage that will last. If we haven't split up yet then we never will. Too many people get divorced and I just don't understand why they do. There had to be doubts of some kind to begin with if the marriage didn't last that long. At least that's what I think but I'm different than most couples out there. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
Yeah, and yet after only one or two years people start chatting about marriage and it's like, shut up already.
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) Lol I never talked about my marriage to anyone. For one I didn't have anyone to talk to but there was nothing to talk about. We were just together still like we were before, nothing changed but a extra piece of paper saying we legally share everything instead of choosing to share everything. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
I mean that people start trying to get couples to get married, their families and friends, within a couple of years. Not necessarily that plans occur it's just pressure.
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My mom did that everyone kept telling her to shut up, even her fiance told her to shut up about the wedding, she became a REAL bridezilla. Everything has to be her way or no way.
The wedding was taken place on the fields of the resort; the wedding before her had the exact color scheme: white, lilac, and brown they were real flowers and it was beautiful. No, my mom wanted them down because the white didn't match her dress. The wedding sucked balls. No one carded anyone so my 18 year old step-sister got drunk off of at LEAST 6 rum& coke (heavy on the rum). Screwed up the catering, I didn't eat the wedding cake but everyone did and they said that it was the most disgusting cake ever. Better off making one that tastes 100 times better. The wedding turned from $1,000 to $10,000 budget B| |
╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) Well that's stupid. No one should pressure someone into marriage. Then it won't work out if you are rushed into it when you are not ready. I was an odd one and so was my husband, we were ready when we first met to get married, heck we would of married not long after we started to date if my mom let me, but nooo she wouldn't. But we are a rare find. People that actually last long. I won't deny we had our problems but that was because we were teen parents and my mom kept on butting in our marriage and my life every possible chance she got, which was all the fricken time. We did split up for awhile but I finally realized that during that time my mom was the cause of our problems and I needed to cut her out of my life and I did and we have been tighter than we were before ever since then. Echo- I am really sorry to hear that. Things like that should never of happened. Sadly there are women like your mom and there shouldn't A wedding day is the day you will never forget, it is supposed to be the happiest day in your life, but alot of people out there take it too far and ruin the whole thing by not enjoying the process of getting married. People should enjoy getting their wedding together, not stressed out and have to have the best of everything. I feel simpler is better, but that's because I think all out extravagant weddings are ridiculous. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
Many women today feel like somehow they aren't women if they don't do the big wedding thing. It's sad...
My sister eloped. People suspected ti would happen, his family is in Alabama; hers is in Michigan; they married in Chicago, and did a little photo shoot in the city. My mom held a party at a local restaurant. But that all seems better to me than a big wedding. It makes me sick. |
I would have a hard time with my reception because I'm so different from my family because I'm the club dancing type of girl and everyone in my family rather sit and talk for hours. I hate country and everyone loves country.
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I can't see myself going to a club, unless it was more of a punk type atmosphere (not fakey though) and I don't like country, either. Haha. But I don't hate my family... I still live with my parents, heh.
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Not going to the club I mean I'd rather dance in a crowd, I feel embarrassed when I dance in an empty stage. Good chance that if it isn't country music playing then no one would come
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Now i just don't know what you're talking about, who is dancing? XD.
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Basically I rather dance with a crowd of friends/family than all alone dancing (other than the father daughter dance and the first dance)
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) We got married in the judges office with our twins, my mom and his dad as our witnesses. I rather enjoyed it, he did too, simple, easy. We did it that way because it was the day we were going to be married not a day to show the world how much money we have, which to me is every big wedding. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
Well the fact is they're trying to show off money that they *don't* have. Many people take out big loans or second mortgages in order to finance their big weddings. It's disgusting. Reeks of dowry.
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╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) That is disgusting. You should only do what you can actually afford with what you have in the bank and not go over board. A wedding is a special day that you promise yourself to the love of your life and not a big show off party to act like you are god and got the best of everything in life when in fact you most likely don't have anything good at all. To me most marriages don't work because one or both of the people became selfish. A marriage is a work together thing. Both of you have to work together, understand each other completely, agree with each other on the important issues. If you can't agree on how to raise children, then you can't make it work. Things like that have to be agreed upon, both of you have to follow the other with what they choose and not go against it. But most couples out there only worry about themselves. My husband's grandparents are like us, we share everything and understand each other and accept the other for who they are and not try to control the situation and marriage. We work together entirely and they worked out, my stupid mom controls her marriage and the bastard she married and their marriage is only going to last because 1- The guy she married is terrified to be alone so he's gonna stay in a mentally, verbally abusive marriage just so he won't have to be alone and 2- my mom won't have to work and she can spend all his money on stupid ridiculous things that she doesn't even need in a million years. She's a huge selfish bitch that doesn't have a marriage and if they both won't worried about having to fend for themselves they would get divorced. I know it. LOL I have a great marriage and my mom has a terrible one and she waited til she was in her really late 40's to get married for the first time, to my husband's father. But they deserve each other, both are losers and I hate to say this, but it's true, both should die, especially my mom. She's been a abusive person my whole life and she is abusing my kids and there is nothing I can do about it, and his father is a horrible dad, he doesn't even care about his own children and won't help them out no matter if they are seconds away from being tossed on the street with no where to go and no home and no money. But they deserve each other, both losers are together. By the way, I really hate my mom, really hate her, I'm impatiently waiting for her death because of what she's all done to me, my husband, my son and the children she stole from me. Poor kids are brainwashed into thinking they deserve the mental and physical abuse. ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
Wow... that's... disgusting. I can see your... disgust. But it's good to see that you have a good relationship with your husband, and that you appreciate the significance of it.
My parents have been married for... 33... going on 34 years. I realize more and more how odd that is. That kind of thing... I've always wondered how you could go about not knowing these things early on in a relationship. |
╔═════════════════════════════════╗ (｡◕‿◕｡) Hopefully people don't realize them because they are just plain stupid as heck and have no brain at all. Otherwise thinking over and over again that things will go away eventually is retarded because after awhile you will realize things aren't getting better but you keep on staying because you are getting something material from the marriage. Long marriages like that are rare, but it's really nice to see people can stay together for that long. I'm happy for your parents, they are part of a rare breed of people. Wished more marriages would work out. Most of them ruin kids lives, and some moronic people think that having a kid is gonna make the problems go away, which is even way worse, but that's people. Most of them are stupid as heck. >.>; ╚═════════════════════════════════╝ |
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